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  Marriage is Harder When You are Married to an Unmotivated Man by Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Coach Right now, you know a woman working at least two jobs, (not counting parenting children and running a household), who is married to an unmotivated man. It may be a co-worker, a sister, a neighbor or friend, but you know this woman. These women have a major problem, they believe they really love the guy on the couch who just can’t or won’t keep a job. This causes another major problem, because they don’t want their children to suffer or do without the basics, like new shoes, school supplies or playing little league. And so, they do the only thing they think they can do - they work, and work and then they work some more. Obviously not every man who is temporarily out of work is an unmotivated man who makes life miserable for his wife. In fact, a highly motivated man will always find something to do to support his family during tough times so his wife usually feels emotio...

  15 Factors that Fuel Unfaithfulness written by Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Leadership Coach There are 15 key factors that can cause someone to ignore everything they believe in to break all the rules of a stable relationship. Here are the factors that drive people to cheat. As you read them, think of the people you have watched in a continual and desperate attempt to find somebody new to love, who only ended up creating massive stress and chaos for everyone else involved. 1. Selfishness:  The clear #1 factor that fuels secret relationships is a commitment to please oneself over any commitment to their partner. Selfishness is a subtle slave master because it seems so natural to do what feels good inside, without consideration for how it will affect others. Once a person buys into the notion that their happiness is more important than that of their marriage partner, or children, parents, co-workers, boss, or shareholders, they begin a seductive slide into the da...

58 Warning Signs of Cheating Partners written by: Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Leadership Coach These are the most common signs of a partner who has detached from you because they are attached to someone else. Check off any of these traits you have seen in your relationship over the last few months. Be honest, the future of your relationship together could depend on it. Spiritual Warning Signs: ____ You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of topics ____ Your spouse seems more secretive or deceptive ____ Abandoning faith or previously held values or morals ____ Not trustworthy or constant violations of trust ____ Secrecy or unusual activity that is very out of character for them ____ Your partner is disrespectful or rude to those who hold traditional values ____ Your partner abandons their religious belief and value system Behavioral Warning Signs: ____ Mate is working longer hours on the job and not coming home as much ____ Your spouse h...

  By: Brian Murray, LMHC, NCC One of the hallmarks of a great marriage or relationship is being involved with a person who values the other person’s feelings in a respectful and caring way. Validation in a relationship is a good indicator of a relationship health check. It is the ability to communicate reciprocating thoughts and feelings that indicate they are there for each other. Healthy people relationally do not criticize, demand or belittle the other person for expressing their feelings, needs and wants. Whether intentional or not, being critical or belittling the other person can send signals that what is being expressed implies the other is wrong, or somehow it makes them a bad person. Invalidation is negative behavior that can, and often turns the overall mood of the relationship sour. The initial gut response to negativity is usually anger followed by resentment. The anger and resentment are the result of feeling the pain of the invalidating comment. Emotional suppor...