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Having the Hard Conversation: Should I Stay, or Should I Go?

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By: Dwight Bain, NCC Marriage to a loving life partner is one of life’s greatest blessings – but what happens when that marriage appears to be dying? Should you stay and try to work it out – or should you start packing to go? It’s a difficult question but it’s not an impossible one when you know what questions to ask, and how to move from angry conflict back to loving connection. Marriages can heal from an honest conversation guided by a professional on a path of healthy transformation for both partners. You can’t make somebody love you, but you can let go of trying to make them change. Disclaimer: If you, or someone you care about, is in an abusive relationship these ideas are not for them. Abuse, addiction and continual violations of trust are indicators of marital failure. Please let others know so they can help you break out of the toxic cycle because it takes two safe people working together to heal a relationship. It’s not weakness to ask for help – it’s a sign of strength. You c...
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Having the Hard Conversations: Do I Quit or Grit?

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By: Dwight Bain, NCC It’s hard to bring up difficult topics at home, but what if the health of your marriage or family is at stake? Best-selling author Tim Ferriss describes it like this, “ A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have. ” Life is about relationships, so if you wanted a good life, you would do everything possible to make your relationships better – right? Not necessarily. Sometimes the most important parts of a marriage or family relationship cross into the uncomfortable topics no one wants to bring up. Drinking, rage, smoking, addictions like spending, or porn or gambling, or cheating? What about a tough topic millions of Americans struggle with as their parents are aging- that of impairment with driving skills, or money management or living alone. Tough conversations don’t get easier as you ignore them, they get harder. When you are trying to keep the peace, but need to speak up should you ...
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Having the Hard Conversations: Talking to Aging Parents About Their Future

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By: Dwight Bain, NCC Talking to aging parents about their future is one of the hardest conversations you may ever have. These discussions bring up emotions—fear, sadness, and even resistance from both sides. You may worry about overstepping, while they may fear losing independence. It’s natural to feel unsure about where to start or how to approach these sensitive topics. But you are not alone. Many adult children face this challenge, and while it may be uncomfortable, having these conversations now can prevent stress and uncertainty later. The key is to approach these discussions with empathy, patience, and respect. It’s not about taking control, but about working together to ensure your parent’s wishes are honored and their needs are met. To help you navigate this process, here are some practical tips and conversation starters that can make these discussions easier and more productive. Approaching the Conversation Before initiating these discussions, consider the following: Choose th...
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Having the Hard Conversations: Why They Matter and How to Know When It’s Time

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By: Dwight Bain, NCC Difficult conversations are an inevitable part of life. Whether it’s addressing family conflicts, setting boundaries, or discussing uncomfortable truths, these discussions can be emotionally challenging but are essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. Avoiding them often leads to unresolved tension, misunderstandings, and resentment. Learning how to navigate hard conversations with confidence and empathy is a crucial life skill that can strengthen relationships and create clarity in difficult situations. Why Hard Conversations Are Important They Strengthen Relationships – Open, honest dialogue fosters trust and deeper connections. They Prevent Resentment – Unspoken frustrations can build over time, leading to greater emotional distance. They Encourage Personal Growth – Facing difficult topics helps develop communication skills, emotional intelligence, and resilience. They Bring Clarity – Having direct...
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Jumping Jobs: 21 Ways to Find More Meaningful Work and Avoid Career Mistakes

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By: Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, Certified Coach & Critical Incident Recovery Expert In today's job market, many individuals find themselves underemployed. This means they have the skills, talents, and gifts necessary to excel, but they lack the opportunities to fully utilize them. This underemployment leads to frustration, lack of fulfillment, and ultimately, a high turnover rate as people quit jobs that don’t challenge or fulfill them.  Why are people quitting jobs in record numbers? Did they find a better opportunity – or are they sick of working in a dead-end job with a 'bully' boss? 3.2% of U.S. workers voluntarily quit their jobs last month, fueling what some are calling the “Great Reshuffle” as millions more workers walk away from their current place of employment. Yet, the Department of Labor data shows for every unemployed worker, there are 1.5 job openings. Some industries are offering much higher wages but still can’t find or retain workers. If you are ready to ju...
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Helping Your Child Build a Successful Career Path in 2025

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By: Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, Certified Coach & Critical Incident Recovery Expert The pressures young people face when stepping into the workforce today are greater than ever. From navigating an evolving economy to competing in a digital-first job market, the path to career success is far from straightforward. Many teens and young adults mistakenly expect "reality TV" levels of instant success, only to feel disillusioned when reality hits. As parents, you play a vital role in guiding your child through this critical stage by helping them build resilience, identify strengths, and develop a clear, actionable plan. Why Start Early? Building a career-ready mindset begins long before the first job application. The habits and skills children develop during their elementary and middle school years can shape their future success. Here's how you can support them: Encourage Exploration : In 2025, career opportunities are more diverse than ever, from AI development t...
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