Create Integrity in One Hour says Expert

By Dwight Bain LMHC

 Dr. Pat Morley challenges men to build a life of Integrity in one hour

            Dr. Pat Morley has been challenging men to build integrity over thirty years. His process of creating a life of trust is simple and involves one hour per week asking a friend some tough questions.

Accountability is the pathway to a life of trust, and as someone who has personally benefited from his one hour process it is listed below to challenge you and the leaders you may coach. If you are called to lead, then you must accept the call to be accountable.

            Here are the questions to use as a guide for the one hour integrity session. You don't have to ask every question, but it is essential to cover the main areas to consistently build a life of meaning, purpose and integrity. Ask, listen and expect some tension when you ask the follow up question, "why would you say or do that?" Dealing with tough issues in private can prevent a lot of public pain.

Once you build some integrity in your life my friend Pat would say, "Pass it on."

Questions to Start

• How has God blessed you this week? (What went right?)

• What problem has consumed your thoughts this week? (What went wrong?)

Spiritual Life

·         God’s Word – Have you read it consistently? (How many days? How long? Why not? Will you next week?) What has God been teaching you?

·         Prayer – Describe your prayers for yourself, for others, praise, confession, gratitude. How is your relationship with Christ evolving?

·         Temptation: How have you been tempted this week? How did you respond?

·         Confession: Do you have any un-confessed sin in your life?

·         Worship: Did you worship in church this week? (Was your faith in Jesus strengthened? Was He honored?)

·         Witness: Have you shared your faith? In what ways? How can you improve?

Home Life

·         Wife: How is it going with your spouse? (time, meaningful conversation, attitudes, intimacy, irritations, disappointments, her relationship with Christ)

·         Children: How is it going with your children? (giving encouragement, quantity and quality time, values, education, spiritual welfare)

·         Finances: How are your finances? (debts, sharing, saving, spending, stewardship)

·         Time: How have you invested your time around the house?

Work Life

·         Job: How are things going? (career progress, relationships, temptations, work load, stress, problems, working too much?)

Critical Concerns

·         God’s Will: Do you feel you’re in the center of God’s will? Do you sense His peace?

·         Thought Life: What are you wrestling with in secret?

·         Service: What have you done for someone else this week which can’t be repaid? (the poor, encouragement, mercy, service to others)

·         Priorities: Are your priorities in the right order?

·         Integrity: Is your moral and ethical behavior as it should be?

·         High-Risk: How are you doing in your personal high-risk area?

·         Transparency: Is the “visible” you and the “real” you consistent in our relationship? (if not, in what ways?)

Prayer

·         Close the one-hour accountability check-up with ten minutes of prayer.

·         Focus on concerns of the week.

·         Specifically include areas of struggle: "I need my brothers to pray for me about this and follow up to hold me accountable."

·         Areas my brothers are struggling with: I need to pray for and follow-up this week

About Patrick Morley

For decades Patrick Morley has been regarded as one of America’s most respected authorities on the unique challenges and opportunities facing men. Through his speaking and writing, he is a tireless advocate for men, encouraging and inspiring them to change their lives in Christ. In 1973, Patrick founded Morley Properties, which for several years was one of Florida’s one hundred largest privately held companies. During this time, he was the president or managing partner of fifty-nine companies and partnerships.

In 1986, Patrick started The Man in the Mirror Bible Study, which has grown to include approximately 10,000 men—100 men live in Orlando, Florida, and the others online in all fifty states and throughout the world. In 1989, he wrote The Man in the Mirror, a landmark book rooted in his own search for purpose and a deeper relationship with God. With over three million copies in print, The Man in the Mirror captured the imaginations of men worldwide and was selected as one of the hundred most influential Christian books of the twentieth century. Altogether, Patrick is the best-selling author of twenty books and more than 750 articles.

In 1991, Patrick founded Man in the Mirror, headquartered in Orlando, Florida. They’ve helped 35,000 churches impact the lives of 12,000,000 men worldwide. Their vision is “for every church to disciple every man” through local area directors who help churches disciple men more effectively. “The ministry of Man in the Mirror exists,” says Patrick Morley, “in answer to the prayers of all those wives, mothers, and grandmothers who have for decades been praying for the men in their lives.”

Patrick Morley graduated with honors from the University of Central Florida. He has earned a PhD in management, completed postgraduate studies at the Harvard Business School and Oxford University, and graduated from Reformed Theological Seminary. He lives in Winter Park, Florida, with his wife, Patsy. They have two married children and five grandchildren. Learn more at www.maninthemirror.org