Dating in the Millennial Era By: Emily Long
Flash back: You just got home from a date that you know went
exceptionally well. There was a chemistry, the other person had just the right
amount of everything you’re looking for. In the two days following you wait by
the phone. After two days, if you haven’t heard from them, you start going
through the notions of hurt, rejection, and confusion. Fast forward to the
present: The time limit on the “call back” has drastically changed. With the
evolution of technology, the “call back” has now turned into a “text back” and
normally it’s within an hour of the person leaving. Something simple like “I
had a great time tonight.” The conversation goes on for a little bit and you
think you really have a connection with this person. Then the day comes,
whether it be before or after your second date, that they disappear. Your life
turns into a front-row magic show where you’re left wondering what happened.
The psychological torture of the hurt, rejection, and confusion becomes more
intense due to the fact that it takes 30 seconds to send a text message.
Instead of jumping every time a phone rang loudly next to you like back in the
day, you now jump every time your text message alert goes off. You never come
to a full conclusion of what went wrong and eventually you learn to let it go.
What other choice do you have? But then two months later, you get that text
you’ve been waiting for. The spiral of confusion begins again.
The most important thing while entering the dating stage is to remember your
individuality. Everyone you date isn’t going to be “the one”, they might be one
of 50 more to come on the path to finding your match. Enjoy the experience of
each person you encounter and remember that they have a heart just as you do.
No matter what the outcome, each person you date will be a lesson. Whether you
see the lesson immediately or further down the road, have fun and enjoy the
adventure!
The dating game has now changed into a giant psychological game of
different scenarios that in the end, mostly all have the same result:
unanswered questions. The only question that really should be pending is: Why
do we put each other through all of this? It should be simple; if you don’t
like someone you tell them (kindly) that you weren’t feeling it or into it. In
their maturity, they should be understanding. Post Korean War, a code of
conduct was put into effect following the exploitation of U.S. POWs through psychological
torture. Although this does not compare to what these soldiers went through, it
sparks an idea: Why can’t dating have a code of conduct? With dating now at
your fingertips through websites such as Match and Christian Mingle, why not
establish some guidelines to save each other from the ensuing confusion? Here
are a few:
- What if I’m just not feeling it?
- How long do I have to wait to text?
- What do I call them?
- What do I call us?
- Social media