New Year, New You
By Cara Griffin-Locker
It is a new year and a new you. This time of year is a great time to embrace starting fresh and a good time to think about new aspirations and meaningful goals. It is a time when we ponder on what our story will be. It is also a time when many of us set the wonderful eagerly anticipated New Year’s resolutions. Sounds great, right? Maybe the part about the goals and aspirations and the possibility of writing a whole new story, but what about the resolutions? If you are like most people, you set the resolution knowing it is going to be broken or soon forgotten. Or better yet, you set a resolution just because everyone else is setting one. Who loves setting a resolution that is often not kept and leaves one feeling discouraged, defeated and depressed in the middle of January?
It is a new year and a new you. This time of year is a great time to embrace starting fresh and a good time to think about new aspirations and meaningful goals. It is a time when we ponder on what our story will be. It is also a time when many of us set the wonderful eagerly anticipated New Year’s resolutions. Sounds great, right? Maybe the part about the goals and aspirations and the possibility of writing a whole new story, but what about the resolutions? If you are like most people, you set the resolution knowing it is going to be broken or soon forgotten. Or better yet, you set a resolution just because everyone else is setting one. Who loves setting a resolution that is often not kept and leaves one feeling discouraged, defeated and depressed in the middle of January?
Why
do we do this to ourselves? Is the societal epidemic of keeping up with the Joneses
partially to blame? Or can we simply blame ourselves for the lack of time and
ability to achieve our goals? If we are being honest, we will admit that most
of us do not know how to start accomplishing a resolution. If you have set a resolution and really want this to be the
year in which you succeed, set your goals with sincerity. Here are six helpful
tips to help you achieve a successful year and a new you:
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Be
specific. Set specific resolutions, with tangible, achievable outcomes. For
example, instead of saying you want to save money, determine how much you will
save and what it will be used for. Then visualize what good will come out of
meeting your goal and what it would feel like.
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Write
it down. Write down your goals and outline the steps you need to take in
order to achieve them. By planning and accomplishing one small thing at a time,
you will be able to stay on track, be focused and positive.
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Make time. Being intentional about setting aside time for your
goals is vital. Some goals may need more time than others.
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Move past negative thinking: It is normal to have feelings of fear and worry. Our
negative cognitive thinking can destroy a goal within seconds. It is important to be able to identify faulty
thoughts and understand the truth within our self and to stay in control.
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Get an accountability partner: Having
a group, partner, friend, or professional to encourage you can be beneficial.
Find someone with similar goals and agree to a weekly check-in. Or ask a family
member or significant other to keep you accountable, as long as they are
supportive and positive.
·
Treat yourself: Treat
yourself for meeting goals. If you’ve committed to going to the gym two or
three times a week, promise yourself a reward, such as a new workout outfit.
If you have been guilty of
falling off the "resolution wagon," it's time to try something
different. Follow these steps, take this journey one day at a time and be on
your way to a better version of yourself this year.