Proverbs 31: Bathsheba's Life, Part 2
By Chris Hammond
Bathsheba’s
Background. She was the
daughter of Eliam (2 Samuel 11:3) who was one of David’s thirty mighty men (2
Samuel 23:34) and she was married to Uriah the Hittite (2 Samuel 11:3), a
commander in David’s army. However close
her husband and father were to David, she was not known to David by sight as he
had to ask who she was (2 Samuel 11:3).
David’s
Betrayal. Despite the
loyalty Eliam and Uriah had shown to David in his army, David does not return
the same level of loyalty and instead requests that Bathsheba be sent to him
while her husband was out at war, fighting for Israel. At this time, David had already acquired
several wives and concubines so he was not at loss for attention, rather his lust
for Bathsheba took over and he committed adultery (2 Samuel 11:2-4).
Bathsheba’s
pregnancy. Bathsheba
becomes pregnant and all David’s attempts cover-up their sin fail, so he has
Uriah killed (2 Samuel 11:6-25) in battle.
Bathsheba, now free to be married again, is then taken to be David’s
wife but miscarries their first child as God’s punishment for their sin (2
Samuel 11:26-12:23). They conceive their
second child, Solomon (2 Samuel 12:24-25) immediately following the loss of
their first child and after much grieving.
Bathsheba
as David’s wife. Bathsheba would not have been the most
popular of wives among David’s other wives as clearly she quickly became his
favorite. For at some point in time
David promises that Solomon will take over the kingdom (1 Kings 1:28-30)
despite the numerous older sons he had with other wives. Whether or not the wives knew this is
debatable but they would have sensed a difference in David as soon as Bathsheba
entered the picture.
David’s
continued punishment. Losing their first child was one punishment
for committing adultery. But God gives
David further punishment with turmoil, trouble, and rebellion in his house (2
Samuel 12:11-12). And problems there
were. One son raped his half-sister (2
Samuel 13:1-22). Another son plots to
kill that son (2 Samuel 13:23-37), tries to take over the kingdom through civil
war (2 Samuel 15) and sleeps with some of David’s concubines (2 Samuel 16:22). Still another son tries to steal the kingdom
while David was dying (1 Kings 1).
David’s wives must have deeply resented Bathsheba, knowing full well
that all of this happened after she came into the picture. Bathsheba would have been resented and hated
by David’s other wives as evidenced by her anxious statement made to Solomon’s
half-brother when he went to visit her (1 Kings 2:13) adding to his punishment.
Bathsheba
keeps the peace. However she was viewed by the other wives,
Bathsheba still tried to keep the peace in the family by asking her son Solomon
who was just named King to agree to his half-brother getting married (1 Kings
2:14-21). Solomon sees through the
request as his half-brother’s manipulation and despite his respect for his
mother refuses to grant it (1 Kings 2:19-25).
Bathsheba
gains respect. Bathsheba,
securing her role as Queen Mother when Solomon became King, finally gains the
respect that would have alluded her as the wife of David. As the “problem maker” wife, Bathsheba was
kept under wraps as there was no throne next to David that she already sat on (1
Kings 2:19). This new respect is in
direct contrast to the very public trouble that she would have been seen as
having inflected on David’s kingdom with over the years. Most likely she was an outcast among the
wives and inside Israel as the civil war would have affected everyone and took
the lives of many (2 Samuel 15).
Bathsheba
and gossip. The gossip about
Bathsheba’s life would have been severe as indicated by Psalms 41 and 69
written by her husband David where he laments about the gossiping of others after
he committed adultery. In addition, seven
times in Proverbs Solomon warns of the pitfalls of gossiping further indicating
that he had personal experience with the negative consequences (Proverbs 11:13,
16:28, 17:4, 20:19, 25:10, 25:23, 26:20). This could have been of his making or it could
have been from hearing the gossip about his mother.
Bathsheba’s
regret. “Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:11-12). The advice
Bathsheba gives in this passage is therefore not a reflection on her own life
as her and David’s adulterous actions clearly brought harm to his
Kingdom and not good. Instead these
passages contain remorse and regret for having lived a life which brought her
husband harm.
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About the author- Chris Hammond is a Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern at LifeWorks Group w/ over 15 years of experience as a counselor, mentor & teacher for children, teenagers & adults.