Am I wrong for feeling the way I do? Written by: Deedra Hunter, LMHC

Spoken or unspoken, this is one of the most frequently asked questions the LifeWorks team hears in our office. Why do we doubt, discount, and deny we have feelings? Perhaps the answer lies somewhere in the past. Children are often told in subtle and not so subtle ways that their feelings are unimportant. The old adage “children should be seen and not heard” certainly argues that point. Try as we might our feelings are real and must be taken seriously, to not do so invites a variety of unhealthy ways to express them. Addictions, panic attacks, suicidal gestures, abusive behaviors (toward self or others.), depression and some other diseases can be put into place by one seeking an emotional outlet for feelings.

So, to further answer the question “Am I wrong for feeling the way I do?” No, you are not wrong. You must get to the place where you feel comfortable acknowledging long ago hidden feelings and coming to accept them as rightfully yours. Only when you can own it, name it, and claim it, can you release the powerful negative energy that has been used to keep your feelings away from you, and then turn it into a positive face to enrich and renew your life. The LifeWorks Group is dedicated to making your life work. Nothing signals a successful life more than a healthy connection with God, ourselves, and each other.

Written by: Deedra Hunter is a Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor who has also published a book called; Winning Custody: A Woman’s Guide to Retaining Custody of Her Children.

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