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by Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Coach R ight now, you know a woman working at least two jobs, (not counting parenting children and running a household), who is married to an unmotivated man. It may be a co-worker, a sister, a neighbor or friend, but you know this woman. These women have a major problem, they believe they really love the guy on the couch who just can’t or won’t keep a job. This causes another major problem, because they don’t want their children to suffer or do without the basics, like new shoes, school supplies or playing little league. And so, they do the only thing they think they can do - they work, and work and then they work some more. Obviously not every man who is temporarily out of work is an unmotivated man who makes life miserable for his wife. In fact, a highly motivated man will always find something to do to support his family during tough times so his wife usually feels emotionally secure that he will provide for her and the kids. This article ...

  Life Coach or Life Partner? How To Tell If You Are Dating a Real Man or a Man-Child by Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Life Coach If maturity is about growing up, accepting responsibility, and building a meaningful life, then it must be rare. This according to many women who have shared how they felt more like the life coach or ‘mommy’ to a guy who just won’t grow up. You know the type – good looking, fun personality, great talker – but emotionally unavailable and irresponsible. Not marriage material. When some women figure out the relationship is never going to progress toward marriage and kick out the ‘man child’ who doesn’t want to leave, it can explode into a cultural conversation of what is and is not acceptable in expectations about dating. Consider Lauren, who broke up with her ‘man-child’ and posted it, which sparked over 36 million views and 39,000 comments. https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/woman-breakup-tiktok-man-child-b2549858.html Why aren’t som...

      A Blue Van can teach Powerful lessons about patience  Sitting at a green traffic light waiting for the blue van in front of me to actually go on green was a test of patience. I failed.    Americans are busy people with a lot to get done. We microwave everything in our lives to get more done in less time. In fact when asked about what they would want most, the common answer was not money, nope - it was ‘more time.’  Back to the blue van. They finally moved about the time the traffic light turned yellow, so now I’m stuck thinking unhappy thoughts. Why?  It didn’t go the way I wanted it to go and I was frustrated, losing energy instead of trying to be creative and problem solve. Impatient people are basically control freaks. It causes significant stress in their lives, and when I say ‘they’ I mean ‘me’. Yep, I’m a control freak about some things, and suspect you are as well. It can become a serious problem. The old song lyric wou...

  By: Megan Brewer, LMHC Some of the bravest people come to counseling. They are brave because of what they have faced and overcome just to make the appointment and walk into the counseling room. I like the word brave because it has little to do with the absence of fear or anxiety. Bravery is courage to face fearful, uncertain, or painful things while still feeling fear and anxiety.    When I ask a new client what it is like to be in counseling, the client often says that they feel anxious. This anxiety usually exists because of two reasons: First, they do not entirely know what to expect, and second, they know that they will be walking into their own story in ways they have become skilled at avoiding. They are afraid of what they may find. I think new clients are brave for stepping into the therapy process in the face of anxiety because these things are completely reasonable things to fear, especially at the beginning of an unknown and potentially life-changing jour...

 By: Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC All people have problems, yet research shows most people who seek professional counseling are female. Does this mean women have more problems than men? Does it mean women are a “weaker sex”? Or does it simply mean women are more honest about facing and working on problems instead of ignoring them? So why are men terrified to face the problems in their life with a therapist? Perhaps it is the perception of a lack of masculinity to admit to problems and seek help. Ignoring problems does not make them go away, but it can be a distraction. Maybe this explains why some men struggle with addictions to sports, alcohol, pornography, gambling, violence, or drugs more than women do. It takes a secure person to seek out wise counsel when facing a challenge while an insecure person refuses help or tries to figure out complicated situations alone. Research from SAMHSA, (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration), reveal: -   ...