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How Codependents Can Use Boundaries with Narcissists

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  By: Brian Murray, LMHC, NCC Codependents are identified as someone who has an addiction to love; they will sacrifice themselves to please others. They are deeply concerned with what others think of them in basically every area of life. They have a distorted sense of responsibility and often blame themselves for how others feel. Narcissists are very self-centered people who have a strong sense of specialness in the world. Their ego driven mentalities require others to see them as being highly special even if their life and achievements don't add up to how special they claim to be. Narcissists often blame others as having a problem when their specialness isn't recognized followed by a host of manipulation tactics aimed at punishing the person who didn't recognize them. They will also punish those who try and compete or relate at a level that is equal to them. There is a saying when it comes to narcissists, they don't share the stage because it's all about them...

7 Ways To Overcome Codependency

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 By: Brian Murray, LMHC, NCC Codependency is a type of behavior that is often used to describe someone who is trying to control the actions and behaviors of others. Often the person who is termed “codependent” is trying to love another but is going about it in a way that creates poor relationship connections. Codependents have an unhealthy reliance and emotional dependence on others, mostly in romantic relationships. This connection is usually based on the codependent’s need to try and fix, rescue and control their partner. The term codependent was originally termed in addiction treatment as the person who is in relationship with the addicted person. They would often be seen as addiction supply either relationally, financially or some other form of enabling behavior such as a place to live. The codependent feels that they can fix the addict, control outcomes or rescue the addicted from themselves. When this happens then the addict will see how wonderful they are and that is...