The Whirlwind of Social Media
The Lie of Facebook
By: Christine Hammond, LMHC
I don’t know about you, but if I
see one more “cute” cat video on Facebook, I’m going to scream. How is it that
my friends have time to find and then post silly videos? Are their lives so
‘purrfect’ (pun intended) that they have the luxury to do this? Or… is it a
façade? Facebook allows a person to literally paint and alter their image
without any consequences for false identity or misrepresentation. Think of it
as a giant modern art canvas where realistic images are absent and abstract
images are present. There is plenty of room for interpretation. My frustration
over the videos is more about my interpretation of their time in comparison to
mine, rather than an accurate reflection of my friend’s life.
Don’t waste energy on interpretative art. Instead, let it be
what it is.
Facebook: America’s Addiction
By: Cara Griffin-Locker
If you are like most people you
probably have a Facebook account. You posts pictures, follow friends and family
and maybe check into a place from time to time to get the occasional
discount. For some, this social media
outlet is a way to stay connected but for others it is a socially populated
outlet in which depression is generated.
It can create, envy, jealousy, hatred and at times an extramarital
affair. Facebook, to many, is a new addiction.
Here are
four of the most common ways in which Facebook can create depression in those
who obsess over the materialistic things and unrealistic happiness that people
can display.
1.
Isolation: Depression by
itself is an isolating disease. Combine that with staring alone at a screen,
reading about other people's lives, hoping and waiting for someone to comment
on or like something you wrote and you have a recipe for disaster. This often
creates even more isolation because of the obsession that results.
2.
Comparison: The art of looking at Facebook
repeatedly can lead to the inevitable comparing game. So-and-so has this and I
do not, or so-and-so is doing this and I am not. This type of comparison makes us feel like we
are missing out, inadequate or a loser. It creates a sense of worthlessness in
our own being that can ultimately lead to depression.
3.
Fantasy/reality: Seldom do people post negative
things on Facebook. In reality is their life perfect and all roses and
butterflies? Of course not. It is all
about perception and what they want the world to believe. Their life is not
perfect. No one’s life is.
4.
The Numbers Game: Like all social
media platforms, Facebook is a numbers game that consists of how many friends
you have and how many people comment on your posts or pictures. These types of expectations can easily lead
to depression.
Think about this the next time you scroll through Facebook -
do you spend numerous times a day looking at other people’s pages and what they
are doing? Do you obsess over what others have? If so, it may be time to cancel
or at least take a break from Facebook and get back in touch with reality.
Life Through the Lens and the
Keyhole
By: Matthew W. Sandford, LMHC
We all have a tendency, and some more than others, to view
other peoples lives through our “lens” and assess their relative success,
happiness and level of fulfillment. We all have longings inside of us and these
longings play a large role in making up the “lens” through which we interpret
the world. Often, the more dissatisfied we are with our lives, or the farther
we are from being able to realize our longings, the more we are influenced by
what we interpret about others.
But here’s the thing; we never have an objective view of the
inside world of others, we only have a view that is akin to peering through a
keyhole. Let’s say you hear of a party that you were not invited to and in your
jealousy, you go the location and peer through the keyhole. From what you can
see through the keyhole, it seems that everyone is having a wonderful time,
moving around, chatting, happy, even dancing. Your heart sinks. Suddenly the
door flings open as someone exits, and a clear and full view is exposed to you. You see that the event was for disabled
persons; a wheelchair here, crutches and braces there. No one was moving around so freely as you had
perceived.
We really only have a
keyhole view of anyone’s real life.
That is, unless you are a counselor….