Wednesday, March 24, 2010

The Hidden Power of Change: Part 2

By Dwight Bain, Life Coach & Counselor

Change involves the cycle of fighting for control, feeling like you are losing control, surrendering control and making the choice to allow God full control your life.

Change cycle: Life = change = stress = strength = success; so as you master stress the successes come faster and more frequently.

Every change tests what you believe. If you wiggle out of facing the test today, it just comes back bigger next time so face the change, take the test and show the world what you believe.

When change happens you have a choice- manage it and grow stronger, or avoid it and grow weaker.

Reacting to change wisely improves every part of your life-reacting foolishly destroys your life. The rich get richer and the poor get poorer all based on what they do with change.

Change is temporary and usually comes from unexpected circumstances. Confidence is lasting and usually comes from strategically planned choices.

Crisis forces change which is good for everyone but never really appreciated by anyone.

Changing your spouse is impossible-changing your situation is possible and changing yourself gives you the strength to say "I'm-possible". Everything is different when you make the decision to change.

When you stop spending your energy trying to change the people in your life who don’t want to change, you discover a hidden source of power for personal change in your own life.

Stop trying to change! Decide to either do it or not do it, but quit telling yourself and others that you are trying. When you’re trying-you’re lying.

Some people spend all their time trying to change others because they fear changing themselves. However, when you overcome that fear and change yourself it forces the people around you to change as well.

When you make a dramatic change, it forces the people around you to make a dramatic change as well. They have to change along with you, or they must leave- either way the relationship is never the same.

Unexpected change will happen- so get ready now to manage it when it comes; which will always be sooner than later.

You can try to escape change or you can equip and get ready to face it, either way you have to make a choice about dealing with change.

Changing yourself is hard work, because you have to make right choices in the face of possible rejection and failure. Not changing yourself only brings a greater chance for even greater rejection and failure.

Change what you can, (like exercising to lose weight), instead of what you can't (like trying to stretch yourself taller to hide the weight by shifting it around or buying magic ‘fat burner’ pills). That’s why you can grow stronger with the power of personal change in spite of any obstacle or setback. Remember- you always have options.

When you make a bold choice to change, it brings an immediate sense of confidence, control & energy. The decision to change gives you a huge boost in mental power and strength to overcome obstacles.

If you avoid making the choice to change, you get confusion which leads to chaos. When you take bold action and choose to change you get confidence which leads to success.

Change yourself or change the system. People like to discuss or criticize the system, because it feels safer than taking the courage to risk something new and in the process change themselves.

Control change now, or it will be controlling you later.

When you avoid making a relationship change in order to avoid relationship conflict, you guarantee that there will be more conflict than you ever dreamed possible. Better to deal with the changes now on your terms and with your time frame, than let it build up into a power struggle full of conflict that always explodes when you least expect it.

When someone brings the “worst” out of you in a relationship, let the experience challenge your weakest points to change. Don’t let their personality problems get in the way of your progress and growth. Grow before you go.

If you want to experience dramatic change in your life it can only come from improving every day. There are no instant plans for maturity.

The things you control, are the things that you can immediately change- if you have the courage to face them and take action!

Most people know what needs to change in their life- they just lack the courage to boldly face it and do something about it.

It’s easier live in fear than to find the courage of Todd Beamer who empowered a nation to change when he faced the 9/11 terrorists with the words “Let’s Roll”.

Whoever said, "If present trends continue" didn't understand change. That's why you can't look back at trends and accurately predict the future, it changes too fast. Learn from the past, study where you are today and get ready for the new trends ahead. As John Maxwell says, “Yesterday ended last night.”

Trust is everything & everything builds trust or it builds distrust. That’s why every relationship is getting stronger or weaker every day based on the choices you make today. You always control your side of relationships, both personally and professionally. Change your side of the situation before you criticize the other side; that way your integrity and self-respect continues to grow strong, in spite of the difficulty or problems.

Trust takes a long time to build, a short time to lose, and then a long time to build. So whichever way you turn, you have to be building trust.

Facing change has always been the fastest way to achieve greatness in life. That’s why we remember the names of Edison, Ford, Carnegie or Disney instead of equally talented people living during the same era who were afraid to take the chance to make a change.

This is your time to change!

So, what insights have you gained from this quick study of the subject of change, and more importantly, what are you going to do about it …today? Now?

I’ve studied what people say when they are facing the end of their life, and noticed that they find their greatest satisfaction from areas they took the positive action to change. Relationships that grew strong, houses or businesses they built, financial security they achieved and then wisely invested, health and happiness from doing something different to leave a positive legacy. Those were the things that people smiled about as they faced eighty years worth of life.

What about you? Have you thought about the value of making positive changes over a lifetime? If you begin today to move forward and face your problems with the hidden power of change, it will get you off the road of complacency and comfort and move you toward a better life. A life that will be scary at first, but leads to counting blessings instead of problems because you had enough courage to risk moving forward to face and deal with change; instead of staying stuck and being destroyed by it.

I challenge you to begin that process today as if your life depended on it, because it does! Real life is lost when you try to avoid dealing with change, that’s why some people have the same problems at fifty-five that they did at twenty-five. They just got older on the outside instead of growing up on the inside. When they say they have had a problem for ‘their whole life’ it’s a lie! Life isn’t over yet, so you can’t have a problem every day of life- unless you are dead!

This is your time to break away from the crowd, take a risk and move toward change. Even taking one step is a change from the way you used to live, so take it! Take it and know that when you do, the right people will come along side you to help; after you make the first move toward change- never before. You see, God is always on time with the people, ideas, capital or whatever resource you need to change, but He always waits on us to take the first step. That may explain why Jesus would always ask the sick people he was about to heal one simple question. “What would you have me to do for you?” He asked before He healed.

Now it’s your turn to experience the supernatural power of change. What do you want to change? What prayer do you want answered so badly that you can taste it? What area of life is about to explode with growth and potential in your life? There is a tremendous power in change but it waits on you. Success in your life is always waiting on you and you alone. Are you ready? I believe this is your time, that’s why you have read this far as you considered making a positive change in your own life. However, there is no power in a coach telling you to change, because the power is in your movement and your action. Change is waiting on you, because when you believe enough to take the first step, the power will grow inside of you to take the next one. Change grows with every positive action you take, as does your personal power.

Here’s a warning for you though. It will be a lot harder than you think when you begin to honestly face the weaknesses that are crying out for change in your life, both personally and professionally. Not only will it be painful to do this, but you can’t do it alone so you will need to take action to involve other healthy people . Go find a coach, counselor, mentor, book, tape, CD, seminar, or even a fellow struggler who is motivated enough to risk making a change and ask them to come alongside you in the journey of changing instead of complaining.

Here’s another warning! Know that some will come against you to criticize your progress, because your growth makes them feel uncomfortable and it exposes the weaknesses in their life that they need to take action on. They may attack you, your motives, your character, and especially your dreams of a better life. The bigger the change you make, the more they may come against you! Don’t stop my friend, Press on anyway.

Sadly, this will especially be true for those who are the closest to you. Be ready for their attacks, since it’s not really about you, it’s about the discomfort they feel about making change in their life. Don’t slow down- don’t stop…just keep growing and changing and pray for them to do the same, since the momentum from your positive growth might challenge them to do the same. God wants them to change too, that’s why He sent you to lead the way. So don’t wait on them, just keep growing every day as you draw from the hidden power of change.

As you take this positive action in your life, be prepared for one more surprising thing. Everyone around you, including total strangers, will begin to praise you in amazement because of how quickly and powerfully your life has become one of strength and significance. Everyone will be surprised at your progress except God, who designed you for greatness a long time ago. It was inside you the whole time! Your difficult life experiences opened up your mind to the new possibilities that are only available from the hidden power of change.

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About the author- Dwight Bain is dedicated to helping people achieve greater results. He is a Nationally Certified Counselor, Certified Life Coach and Certified Family Law Mediator in practice since 1984 with a primary focus on solving crisis events and managing major change. He is a member of the National Speakers Association and partners with media, major corporations and non-profit organizations to make a positive difference in our culture. Access more counseling and coaching resources designed to save you time by solving stressful situations by visiting his counseling blog with over 300 complimentary articles and special reports at

Reversing Negative Momentum

by Dr. John C. Maxwell

Domino's Pizza recently launched a bold, unorthodox campaign to resurrect its image. In a series of ads and on its website,, Domino's airs actual customer complaints about the poor quality of its traditional pizza, and promises better taste from newly released recipes. It certainly must be painful for the pizza chain to admit that customers thought its pizza crust "tasted like cardboard" or felt its food was "bland" or "processed." Yet, Dominos' honesty has a refreshing ring. Not often does a business publicly assume responsibility a poor product.

Through its marketing blitz, Domino's Pizza is attempting one of the most difficult feats in leadership: reversing negative momentum. They aren't alone. 2008 and 2009 were tough years for almost everyone as stocks sunk, home prices plunged, and unemployment crept above 10%. How do leaders halt a downward slide, and change the direction of their teams and organizations?

Four Ways to Reverse Negative Momentum in Your Organization

1) Assume Responsibility for Your Situation

Yes, the economy has been bad, but unless you're Ben Bernanke, then there isn't much you can do about it. By blaming your troubles on the economy, you're putting yourself at the mercy of outside forces. Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, pour your energies into improving the areas within your sphere of influence. Take responsibility for the strength of your products, the health of your brand, and your relationships with key customers.

2) Be Willing to Slaughter the Sacred Cow

Many leaders cling to past successes and traditions to the point that they imperil their organization. Some, enamored with a product, make decisions based on emotional attachments rather than sound judgment. Others, stubbornly set in their ways, refuse to face their fears of change-even when their current business model is unsustainable.

Dominos had to scrap recipes a generation old in order to give itself a makeover. Ford Motor Company sold off Jaguar and Land Rover so that it could compete more effectively in the small-car market. What drastic changes might you need to consider in order to put your team in a better position?

3) Don't Just Listen to Customers; Lead Them

A business should always attune its ears to the customer. However, if customer complaints are your primary driver of change, then you're not a market leader. Domino's is probably overhauling its pizza a decade too late. Customer preferences shifted long ago, and the pizza chain is only now acting in response.

Innovative leaders understand their customers to the point that they are able to anticipate consumer needs. Apple Inc. serves as a prime example. The iPod and iPhone weren't responses to dissatisfied customers. Instead, these ahead-of-the-curve products brilliantly introduced new ways to access music and to experience multimedia content. Apple has scored a string of successes by leading customers rather than reacting to them.

4) Craft a Message for Change...Better Yet, Create the Conditions for It to Happen

Once morale has dipped, leaders have to craft an upbeat message to reverse the tenor of conversation. Yet, a sunny outlook itself won't do the trick. In the words of Lou Gerstner, the man who revived IBM, "You can't simply give a couple of speeches or write a new credo for the company and declare that a new culture has taken hold. You can't mandate it, can't engineer it. What you can do is create the conditions for transformation, provide incentives."

General David Petraeus knows well the challenges of reversing momentum. In Iraq, the general inherited a military operation muddled in a quagmire. He busily set about altering conditions within the country. Instead of attempting to seek and destroy enemy combatants, General Petraeus shifted resources in order to serve and protect the Iraqi people. As security improved, incentives were given for one-time insurgents to stop fighting and reenter public life. Thanks to the conditions orchestrated by General Petraeus, the situation in Iraq not only stabilized, it improved.

John C. Maxwell is an internationally respected leadership expert, speaker, and author who has sold more than 18 million books. Dr. Maxwell is the founder of EQUIP, a non-profit organization that has trained more than 5 million leaders in 126 countries worldwide. Each year he speaks to the leaders of diverse organizations, such as Fortune 500 companies, foreign governments, the National Football League, the United States Military Academy at West Point, and the United Nations. A New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and Business Week best-selling author, Maxwell has written three books that have sold more than a million copies: The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, Developing the Leader Within You, and The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader. His blog can be read at

Protecting Our Children from Predators Article 3: Predators Pay Our Unpaid Bills as Parents

By: Aaron Welch, LMHC, NCC, CSOTS

As I continue to research the issue of protecting kids from pedophiles and sexual predators I had a very uncomfortable epiphany. As I reviewed a study done to determine the tactics that sex offenders use in seducing their target victims, it dawned on me that they say and do things that parents should be doing already. In fact, they often target kids who have a void in their hearts and lives in the particular areas of affirmation, value, and self-esteem. They actually pick the kids who are missing attention and affection in their lives. In fact, sexual predators often act very “fatherly” in order to gain the trust and affection from their victims. Pay attention to the following list of “grooming” techniques used by those sex offenders in one particular study:
• Spending a lot of time with the targeted child: 95.6%
• Giving them a lot of attention: 95.6%
• Touching them non-sexually: 91.3%
• Telling them personal things: 78.2%
• Telling them how special they are: 69.5%
• Playing with them: 69.5%
• Doing what they like to do: 65.2%
• Saying loving, caring things to them: 65.2%
• Letting them decide what you will do together: 52.1%
• Giving them special rewards and privileges: 43.4%
This is just a sample from the list (Leclerc, Proulx, and McKibben…2005). But doesn’t this list give you, as a parent, a kick in the gut? It does me. Sex offenders…PREDATORS of our kids…….employ techniques that mirror what we should already be doing and saying as parents. They target kids with these kinds of voids in their lives.
So…..parents…..ME included……….one of our best weapons against predators gaining intimate access to our children is that we constantly strive to fill up our kids’ hearts in these areas. Let’s make sure that our kids have as little a void in their hearts as possible. Let’s FILL THEM UP….so they are not very good targets for the predators who constantly prowl around, seeking children who they sense are lacking emotionally. Even today parents….let’s vow to do a better job of:
• Spending time with our kids
• Offering them lots of attention even if we’re tired
• Touching them in much-needed and appropriate ways, like hugging, kisses, squeezing their shoulders, rubbing their hair, patting them on the back and more…
• Emphasizing just how special they are to us
• Playing what THEY like to play
And more…
Basically, let’s make sure we are as connected to our children as possible. If WE are connected to them, then they won’t be looking for connection from someone else and THAT makes them less of a target.
Here’s to our kids…

Aaron Welch is a licensed mental health counselor, nationally certified counselor and certified sex offender treatment specialist. He strives to fight for the hearts of his clients and empower them to build a legacy that impacts the world. He is part of a team of experts at “The Lifeworks Group, Inc”. For more information about Aaron or Lifeworks, please visit or

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

The Best Gift to Give Yourself and Others

by Jim Rohn, Master Coach

I’m often asked the question, “How can I best help my children, spouse, family member, staff member, friend, etc., improve/change?” In fact, that might be the most frequently asked question I receive, “How can I help change someone else?”

My answer often comes as a surprise and here it is. The key to helping others is to help yourself first. In other words, the best contribution I can make to someone else is my own personal development. If I become 10 times wiser, 10 times stronger, think of what that will do for my adventure as a father... as a grandfather... as a business colleague.

The best gift I can give to you, really, is my ongoing personal development. Getting better, getting stronger, becoming wiser. I think parents should pick this valuable philosophy up. If the parents are okay, the kids have an excellent chance of being okay. Work on your personal development as parents—that’s the best gift you can give to your children.

If you have ever ridden in an airplane, then you might have noticed the oxygen compartment located above every seat. There are explicit instructions that say, “In case of an emergency, first secure your own oxygen mask and then if you have children with you secure their masks.” Take care of yourself first... then assist your children. If we use that same philosophy throughout our whole parental life, it would be so valuable.

If I learn to create happiness for myself, my children now have an excellent chance to be happy. If I create a unique lifestyle for myself and my spouse, that will be a great example to serve my children.

Self-development enables you to serve, to be more valuable to those around you; for your child... your business... your colleague... your community... your church.

That’s why I teach development skills. If you keep refining all the parts of your character (yourself, your health, etc.) so that you become an attractive person to the marketplace, you’ll attract opportunity. Opportunity will then begin to seek you out. Your reputation will begin to precede you and people will want to do business with you. All of that possibility is created by working on the philosophy that success is something you attract by continually working on your own personal development.

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The Value of a Good System

By John C. Maxwell

Almost nightly, the fate of the American health care system headlines the evening news. With costly inefficiencies plaguing the system, employers and workers alike have felt the pain of skyrocketing premiums. Politicians on opposite ends of the political spectrum disagree on the best policies for the future, but there seems to be consensus that the system isn't working well.

I'm not advocating a position in the health care debate. I simply want to point out the headaches caused when we don't have good systems. What's true nationally applies individually as well. Broken systems lead to disorganization, confusion, and chaos whereas smooth systems allow us to move quickly and efficiently.

The reason for this lesson is to help you understand the importance of developing good systems in your personal and professional leadership. The exact systems that work for me may not pertain to you. It's up to you to find the systems that will benefit you the most. Yet, regardless of what your systems look like, you would be wise to design them if you intend to grow in influence.

What Is a System?
A system is simply your way of getting things done. Systems aren't one-time acts; they're habits that you do weekly or even daily. They're the mechanics of leadership, and over time, they dictate the extent of your effectiveness.

The Value of Systems
1) They Help Us Manage Time

As a young leader, a heavier workload and increasing demands on my time forced me to learn how to get things done quickly. I developed systems to squeeze as much productivity as possible into my day. I couldn't afford to move slowly.

As Peter Drucker wrote, "Everything requires time. It is the one truly universal condition. All work takes place in time and uses up time. Yet most people take for granted, this unique, irreplaceable, and necessary resource. Nothing else, perhaps, distinguishes effective executives as much as their tender loving care of time."

2) They Help Us Conserve Energy

When we have good systems in life, we don't waste energy. Do you know the number one waster of time? Looking for things that are lost. A study by Office World News found that the average executive squanders 150 hours each year looking for misplaced files.

As I worked on this lesson, I laughed because I knew it would bring up a few of my idiosyncrasies. For example, when I went to get my glasses the last time, I ordered six pairs-one to put at each of my favorite reading places. I don't have to carry a pair around with me, and when I sit down they're always convenient. It may seem like a silly system, but I never lose time rummaging around for a pair of reading glasses.

3) They Help Us to Multiply Creativity

When I was first married, my wife and I lived in south Indiana, and we didn't have any money. Margaret taught kindergarten, and I was a pastor making $80 per week. Margaret would ask me to mow the lawn, and I would get irritated because we didn't have money to hire someone else to tend to the lawn. There's nothing wrong with mowing, but I had lots of other priorities, and mowing didn't crack my top ten. So, eventually we bought a goat. He grazed on the grass, and I saved time!

Developing systems to handle the trivia of life frees you up to be creative. By automating repetitive tasks, you're able to focus mental energy on top priorities.

4) They Help Us to Maximize Progress

Systems help us to move forward, to go as far as we possibly can. They enable us to work faster, smarter, and more strategically. A good system eliminates waste, while it also anticipates and removes obstacles.

To get the most out of systems, you have to make them a lifestyle not a one-off deal. They must become ingrained in your routine. Systems only benefit you when you stick to them.

The Value of Systems

1) They Help Us Manage Time
2) They Help Us Conserve Energy
3) They Help Us to Multiply Creativity
4) They Help Us to Maximize Progress

About the Author
John C. Maxwell is an internationally recognized leadership expert, speaker, and author who has sold over 16 million books. EQUIP, the organization he founded has trained more than 2 million leaders worldwide. Every year he speaks to Fortune 500 companies, international government leaders, and audiences as diverse as the United States Military Academy at West Point, the National Football League, and ambassadors at the United Nations. A New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and Business Week best-selling author, Maxwell was named the World's Top Leadership Guru by He was also one of only 25 authors and artists named to's 10th Anniversary Hall of Fame. Three of his books, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, Developing the Leader Within You, and The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader have each sold over a million copies. Visit his website for more at

Thursday, March 11, 2010

The Teaching of Disillusionment

By Oswald Chambers

“Jesus did not commit Himself to them…, for He knew what was in man.” (John 2:24-25)

Disillusionment means having no more misconceptions, false impressions, and false judgments in life; it means being free from these deceptions. However, though no longer deceived, our experience of disillusionment may actually leave us cynical and overly critical in our judgment of others.

But the disillusionment that comes from God brings us to the point where we see people as they really are, yet without any cynicism or any stinging and bitter criticism. Many of the things in life that inflict the greatest injury, grief, or pain, stem from the fact that we suffer from illusions. We are not true to one another as facts, seeing each other as we really are; we are only true to our misconceived ideas of one another. According to our thinking, everything is either delightful and good, or it is evil, malicious and cowardly.

Refusing to be disillusioned is the cause of much of the suffering of human life. And this is how that suffering happens – if we love someone, but do not love God, we demand total perfection and righteousness from that person, and when we do not get it we become cruel and vindictive; yet we are demanding of a human being something which he or she cannot possibly give.

There is only one Being who can completely satisfy to the absolute depth of the hurting human heart, and that is the Lord Jesus Christ. Our Lord is so obviously uncompromising with regard to every human relationship because He knows that every relationship that is not based on faithfulness to Himself will end in disaster.

Our Lord trusted no one, and never placed His faith in people, yet He was never suspicious or bitter. Our Lord’s confidence in God, and in what God’s grace could do for anyone, was so perfect that He never despaired, never giving up hope for any person. If our trust is placed in human beings, we will end up despairing of everyone.

The Hidden Power of Change

By Dwight Bain, Life Coach & Counselor

Major change is almost impossible to manage alone, that’s why leaders turn to others for insight and guidance during times of massive change. They know that taking the right action quickly can prevent a stressful situation from getting worse and in fact may surprise them by turning into unexpected success. I’ve had the chance to come alongside thousands of leaders over the last twenty five years to coach them through major life transitions in their personal and professional life and have learned something new about change every day. While every difficult situation was complex in different ways, I discovered some common elements of a remarkable, although often, hidden source of energy that only became available during times of massive change. When used, this secret power gave these leaders the ability to achieve results instead of experiencing regrets while facing unbelievable levels of stress and pressure. My greatest joy was to coach them from pressure and problems to move forward with boldness by facing the changes necessary to gain personal strength and confidence.

Every change brings a chance to self improve and develop in countless ways, that’s why I’m sharing these insights with you now. I want you to benefit from the hidden power of change in your life every single day. As you read these insights, think about your own situation and the changes you are facing right now, as well as the changes you need to make over the next few months in order to achieve greater success. Plan on using a highlighter to underline or circle the insights that reveal a part of you that is sick of feeling stuck in the same old pattern and is ready for a new perspective on change. Then take those highlighted concepts and begin to reshape them into action steps that you can use for guidance and motivation in your own journey of harnessing the hidden power of change.

Change is common. Taking positive action about it is rare.

Change is the most common element in life, just like the atom, which is the most common element in the universe. It’s everywhere and in everything but only a few studied it to understand how to harness the power of splitting an atom to develop massive amounts of energy- the energy of the universe itself! This common element had within it the power to develop – or – destroy the world. It’s the same for you and me, since the way that we deal with change will make our world a better place or lead to destroying it.

Every little change makes big change possible. That’s why you have to do little things differently every day to see big things change over time.

Everyone is moving forward but not everyone is on the same track. That’s why some people always look busy but never seem to accomplish much.

Since change is the most common factor in life why do so many people fear it? They realize that they can’t completely control it so they completely give up. When you learn to manage change instead of avoid it, you regain control of yourself and then have the power to change the situation.

Change is the most basic element of life however; it is so common that it is often overlooked. That’s why most people dismiss change as another misery in life to manage around. Leaders who learn to boldly confront change and take steps to master it find amazing focus and meaning.

Change creates energy. It can either “psych you up” with heightened motivation to take action, or “psych you out” with fear and anxiety. Leaders maximize this hidden power of change to gain strength in difficult times.

When a leader awakens to see how fast change actually moves, they gain the ability to zoom past others like they were asleep. At first this is exciting and fun to have the ability to move so fast; then it becomes increasingly frustrating. Because the goal of a leader is to use the power of change to wake others up instead of just selfishly using that power to manipulate others.

Crisis reveals who you are- what you do about the crisis reveals who you will be.

Comfort doesn’t bring change, comfort brings complacency. Only two things bring about radical and dynamic change- crisis and choice. One requires courage to boldly face issues and the other requires confidence to take bold action.

Life is changing at lightening speed. Change with it at lightening speed and you will find amazing success; wait for it and you’ll be left in the dust of those who took a chance and moved to a new level of success.

Leaders who say, “let’s wait and see” are really saying, “I’m too weak to express my opinion,” since “wait and see” usually means “wait and sink.”

Systems are the key to success or failure in life; change the system- and you change your life!

Big change creates a chance to build big confidence from taking bold action; instead of just building more complacency by choosing avoidance.

Change is the only method you can use to cash a reality check.

Understanding change is the key to building a good life- mastering change is the key to building a great legacy.

How well you respond to change is the best indicator of how successfully you will live.

If everything is changing, then you have a tremendous advantage if you are changing with it, since the gap between the changers and non-changers is growing every minute.

People who master change will always be in demand as leaders, because as they grow stronger, people around them who haven’t changed will need their guidance more than ever. This gap between the ‘have’s’ and the ‘have not’s will grow dramatically in the future.

Since everything is changing faster than ever, how come everyone isn’t changing faster than ever to keep up?

Change forces you to make quick choices; so figure out now what you believe is right in order to make the right choice when it happens. You can’t wait on this, so do it now.

Fast and furious, slow and steady or ignorance and bliss are all ways to manage change. Since the way you manage change is the way you manage your life, if you want to figure out how successful someone will be in the future, just watch how they deal with change today.

Excuses are ways to avoid taking responsibility-which leads to criticism of others; reasons are ways to accept responsibility and lead to changing yourself instead of trying to change others.

We build our future one day at a time by how wisely we manage the change happening around us today.

Fame doesn’t equal fortune, which is why so many celebrities end up broke. They banked their futures on the myth that popularity brings profits instead of reinventing themselves through the process of continual self-improvement and change.

Some people would rather keep the people in their life under control by never risking a change, than to push forward and hear those same people boldly cheer for them as they take the risk to move forward toward achieving a positive difference.

You control change by the way you control your choices. You have the power to break the patterns that have held you back, and that power is wrapped up in one word, "choice."

Everything in life is changing quickly so everyone in life has to be changing fast to keep up, or risk being run over and left behind. Few will change fast, and those few will be the leaders.

Change can lead to a crisis, which is stressful; or to a choice, which is also stressful; and staying the same creates the highest levels of stress! When you risk taking control of the changes around you, stress goes down as your strength and confidence goes up. Good trade.

Most people run from change, leaders run toward it. They know that the courage required to run toward change is the down payment for the success they will experience on the other side of it.

The difference between a challenge or crisis is based on your perspective of the problem, the resources available to you and most importantly how well you respond to change.

The old saying "only the strong survive" is true- and real strength comes from facing the crisis instead of figuring out who to blame.

Change reveals your weak spots that needed attention anyway; you just weren't aware of it. This is the greatest secret of change- pressure points the way to personal growth.

The size of the change shows the size of the problem that you have to deal with and the size of the team needed to manage it. Big change can’t be mastered by one person; and was never designed to be handled alone. That’s why you have to ask for help when things are changing rapidly instead of slipping into silence.

An unexpected change feels like an explosion inside-it's stressful, scary and stretches you in ways you didn't anticipate. The end result of this process is strength as you stick with it.

Life is about change and change is stressful. How you deal with the stress will make you better or it will continue to build until you have to deal with it anyway. There is no strength without overcoming significant amounts of stress.

Mr. Goodwrench is right-you gotta pay. Paying now is difficult, waiting to pay later is usually disastrous because the price is always much greater. Paying now is the only way to successfully manage change.

Surrender is the key to solve the anxiety of change, so learn to flow with change instead of fleeing from it or trying to fight it. Change your mindset about this process and you will just about eliminate worry and anxiety from your life.

Since you cannot grow without changing- learn to master the change process early in life in order to achieve early success.

The process of life is changing incredibly fast, and that's stressful, but if you press through the stress, you will always gain strength and success.

Move from frustration to fulfillment by changing your mindset about making the right choice in a difficult situation.

Life is about change and change is stressful, as you press through the stress you will become strong.

Every change involves a risk and the greater the change, the greater the risk. But great rewards require bold action, so take the risk to change and you will be boldly rewarded.

Making a positive change in your life today is going to be painful, but the long term payoff is powerful.

Avoiding change doesn't make it go away, it makes it grow bigger and you still have to deal with it, so tackle it now, while it's small enough to manage.

Be direct with change and you will take charge of your life.

Change often forces you to face the things that you probably needed to face anyway.

Change will test you. How you react to the change determines if you pass to go to the next level of growth, which will require more change!

Every change involves a choice-face it and grow-or avoid it and get stuck. This is your chance to choke up or buck up!

Change is hard, but not changing is always harder.

If you face change you have a chance of making a difference. If you don't face it you never will, and will likely let life pass you by.

You can't control change, but you can control your reaction to it.
We'll finish with more insights about the "Hidden Power of Change" in our next edition.

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