Showing posts from March, 2010

The Hidden Power of Change: Part 2

By Dwight Bain, Life Coach & Counselor

Change involves the cycle of fighting for control, feeling like you are losing control, surrendering control and making the choice to allow God full control your life.

Change cycle: Life = change = stress = strength = success; so as you master stress the successes come faster and more frequently.

Every change tests what you believe. If you wiggle out of facing the test today, it just comes back bigger next time so face the change, take the test and show the world what you believe.

When change happens you have a choice- manage it and grow stronger, or avoid it and grow weaker.

Reacting to change wisely improves every part of your life-reacting foolishly destroys your life. The rich get richer and the poor get poorer all based on what they do with change.

Change is temporary and usually comes from unexpected circumstances. Confidence is lasting and usually comes from strategically planned choices.

Crisis forces change which is good for everyone b…

Reversing Negative Momentum

by Dr. John C. Maxwell

Domino's Pizza recently launched a bold, unorthodox campaign to resurrect its image. In a series of ads and on its website,, Domino's airs actual customer complaints about the poor quality of its traditional pizza, and promises better taste from newly released recipes. It certainly must be painful for the pizza chain to admit that customers thought its pizza crust "tasted like cardboard" or felt its food was "bland" or "processed." Yet, Dominos' honesty has a refreshing ring. Not often does a business publicly assume responsibility a poor product.

Through its marketing blitz, Domino's Pizza is attempting one of the most difficult feats in leadership: reversing negative momentum. They aren't alone. 2008 and 2009 were tough years for almost everyone as stocks sunk, home prices plunged, and unemployment crept above 10%. How do leaders halt a downward slide, and change the direction of their t…

Protecting Our Children from Predators Article 3: Predators Pay Our Unpaid Bills as Parents

By: Aaron Welch, LMHC, NCC, CSOTS

As I continue to research the issue of protecting kids from pedophiles and sexual predators I had a very uncomfortable epiphany. As I reviewed a study done to determine the tactics that sex offenders use in seducing their target victims, it dawned on me that they say and do things that parents should be doing already. In fact, they often target kids who have a void in their hearts and lives in the particular areas of affirmation, value, and self-esteem. They actually pick the kids who are missing attention and affection in their lives. In fact, sexual predators often act very “fatherly” in order to gain the trust and affection from their victims. Pay attention to the following list of “grooming” techniques used by those sex offenders in one particular study:
• Spending a lot of time with the targeted child: 95.6%
• Giving them a lot of attention: 95.6%
• Touching them non-sexually: 91.3%
• Telling them personal things: 78.2%
• Telling them how sp…

The Best Gift to Give Yourself and Others

by Jim Rohn, Master Coach

I’m often asked the question, “How can I best help my children, spouse, family member, staff member, friend, etc., improve/change?” In fact, that might be the most frequently asked question I receive, “How can I help change someone else?”

My answer often comes as a surprise and here it is. The key to helping others is to help yourself first. In other words, the best contribution I can make to someone else is my own personal development. If I become 10 times wiser, 10 times stronger, think of what that will do for my adventure as a father... as a grandfather... as a business colleague.

The best gift I can give to you, really, is my ongoing personal development. Getting better, getting stronger, becoming wiser. I think parents should pick this valuable philosophy up. If the parents are okay, the kids have an excellent chance of being okay. Work on your personal development as parents—that’s the best gift you can give to your children.

If you have ever ridden in an …

The Value of a Good System

By John C. Maxwell

Almost nightly, the fate of the American health care system headlines the evening news. With costly inefficiencies plaguing the system, employers and workers alike have felt the pain of skyrocketing premiums. Politicians on opposite ends of the political spectrum disagree on the best policies for the future, but there seems to be consensus that the system isn't working well.

I'm not advocating a position in the health care debate. I simply want to point out the headaches caused when we don't have good systems. What's true nationally applies individually as well. Broken systems lead to disorganization, confusion, and chaos whereas smooth systems allow us to move quickly and efficiently.

The reason for this lesson is to help you understand the importance of developing good systems in your personal and professional leadership. The exact systems that work for me may not pertain to you. It's up to you to find the systems that will benefit you the most. Y…

The Teaching of Disillusionment

By Oswald Chambers

“Jesus did not commit Himself to them…, for He knew what was in man.” (John 2:24-25)

Disillusionment means having no more misconceptions, false impressions, and false judgments in life; it means being free from these deceptions. However, though no longer deceived, our experience of disillusionment may actually leave us cynical and overly critical in our judgment of others.

But the disillusionment that comes from God brings us to the point where we see people as they really are, yet without any cynicism or any stinging and bitter criticism. Many of the things in life that inflict the greatest injury, grief, or pain, stem from the fact that we suffer from illusions. We are not true to one another as facts, seeing each other as we really are; we are only true to our misconceived ideas of one another. According to our thinking, everything is either delightful and good, or it is evil, malicious and cowardly.

Refusing to be disillusioned is the cause of much of the suffering…

The Hidden Power of Change

By Dwight Bain, Life Coach & Counselor

Major change is almost impossible to manage alone, that’s why leaders turn to others for insight and guidance during times of massive change. They know that taking the right action quickly can prevent a stressful situation from getting worse and in fact may surprise them by turning into unexpected success. I’ve had the chance to come alongside thousands of leaders over the last twenty five years to coach them through major life transitions in their personal and professional life and have learned something new about change every day. While every difficult situation was complex in different ways, I discovered some common elements of a remarkable, although often, hidden source of energy that only became available during times of massive change. When used, this secret power gave these leaders the ability to achieve results instead of experiencing regrets while facing unbelievable levels of stress and pressure. My greatest joy was to coach them …