The Lifeworks Group, Inc.

By: Brian Murray, LMHC Jan was very frustrated in her marriage and didn't understand why. She felt like she needed to make her husband Mike happy and couldn't understand why her efforts to do so seemingly failed. After some time, she became unhappy in her marriage as she felt like her husband didn't really care about her. Mike wasn't cold or distant, he was actually a very nice likable guy, worked hard, was a great father to their 2 children and enjoyed family time. Yet Jan felt like she wasn't doing something right, something was missing like there was a disconnection between her and Mike making her feel uneasy. So what was the uneasy feeling Jan was trying to figure out? What Jan didn't understand about Mike is that internally he is a healthy emotionally balanced person. His sense of value and worth comes from within. Although he feels that what his wife has to offer is very nice, he isn't defined as a person by her actions. Jan does not underst...

By Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC Looking back over their 15-year marriage, Andrew began to see the early signs of paranoia in his wife not long after they met. She was overly fearful of new environments, believed her boss was secretly out to get her, and constantly worried that he wasn’t being loyal to her. But he loved her and thought that by marrying her things would get better and her fears would subside. They did not. Instead, they got worse. To appease her fears of his accused infidelity, he would call her several times a day, allowed her to track his location, gave her his phone to review text and phone messages, let her read his emails (including work related ones), and tolerated random sniff tests looking for scents of another woman. Yet these efforts did not calm her, rather, things seemed to escalate. Andrew noticed his wife’s fears intensified exponentially after the birth of their first child. Their son was not allowed to play at neighbor’s houses b...