The Lifeworks Group, Inc.

By: Brian Murray LMHC, NCC A person with a victim mentality is someone who is experiencing negative feelings and tries to hold others accountable for these feelings. They hold the belief that nothing can be said or done to improve their circumstances, which keeps them stuck in victim mode. They feel vulnerable around people and believe that others have malevolent intentions towards them. A victim mentality is also one of the key traits of a behavioral condition known as Codependency and also Dependent Personality Disorder.   Accountability and responsibility are absent in this person’s life. They do not take ownership of themselves. Instead, they try to get others to be responsible for them and their feelings. For example, “you make me angry” is a very common phrase they use. The truth is nobody makes you angry. People may say and do things that make you feel angry, but the anger belongs to the person experiencing it. So, if you are angry, you are the one who is accountab...

By: Christine Hammond LMHC, NCC Elizabeth hadn’t heard from her daughter in years. The rift between them started shortly after her daughter’s marriage. There were signs when her daughter and husband were dating that something was not right. But Elizabeth couldn’t put her finger on it. The harder she tried to figure it out, the further her daughter became. She suspected he was abusive but there was no evidence to prove it and when she confronted her daughter, that was the last time they spoke. The arrival of Mother’s Day yet again without any communication from her daughter sent Elizabeth into a depression. This is Amanda’s first Mother’s Day and she is so overwhelmed with grief. Several months ago, her baby girl died unexpectedly due to an undiagnosed medical condition. She was only three months old. Just seeing the cards and flowers in the store celebrating Mother’s Day drives her mad. She is so angry, frustrated, confused, sad, and devastated. She can’t s...