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By: Christine Hammond, LMHC What does “Borderline” mean?   What are you a borderline to?   It is almost as if the author of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) came up with the most confusing name possible to express just how confusing it could be to deal with a BPD.   Whatever the reason, the name does not describe the disorder as a BPD is not a borderline to anything.   Rather it describes the almost daily “they love me” or “they hate me” responses a BPD can display in a relationship. So what is BPD?   Here is the technical DSM-V definition: ·       Identity:   Unstable self-image with excessive self-criticism ·       Self-direction:   Instability in goals or career plans ·       Empathy:   Prone to feel slighted or insulted even when not true ·       Intimacy:   Relationships marked by mistrust, neediness, and preocc...

By Linda Riley Points to Consider: 1. Depend a lot on God and prayer. Pray for them and with them. 2. It is wise to control our children when they are young, as we cannot control the choices adolescents and teens will make. 3. Take an active role in selecting their peer group in their early years of school, choosing children who have parents with similar values. This avoids a lot of problems down the road. 4. Develop their character through deep-focused discussions, teaching important values and beliefs. 5. Provide them with a standard to help measure what is right and what is wrong. 6. Through communication, help them learn how to think and evaluate choices for themselves. 7. Model what you are teaching and what you believe. 8. Be interested in them and what they’re doing. 9. Look for character-building opportunities. 10. Don’t over-control, but confront them on accepting responsibility for their choices and actions. 11. Take children to church and Sunday/Sabbath school wh...