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By: Nate Webster LMHC                         Many people have mixed feelings about Valentines Day. Some think its shallow and materialistic, others think it is romantic and important to their relationship. And of course there are those who are just reminded of how lonely they are on the holiday! But regardless of how you may feel about Valentines Day, Americans spend around 18 billion dollars a year on it, which is a lot of flowers, candy and cards. So where did Valentines Day come from and how is it celebrated around the world? Well there are three or four theories as to where it began. We know from history that the Catholic Church recognizes at least three saints named Valentine, each with various legends about who they were and what they did. The one that I really liked lived during the reign of Claudius the 2 nd , a ruler of Rome during the 2 nd and 3 rd ...

By: Nate Webster, IMH If there is one thing millennials deal with around the holidays, it is the passive-aggressive (or sometimes obviously aggressive) cross-examination and questioning of their life and career choices. Many millennials are dreading the question, “So what do you do for a living?” only to be met with blank stares when they try to explain that they are free-lancing, creating art or finding themselves. Holidays can be especially tough for millennials because it often feels more like a time to justify their existence than to celebrate family. So for those millennials reading this, let’s review some strategies for handling those inevitable periods of time during the holiday season when friends and family will prod at you about your life. 1.        Keep it simple : There are some old sayings, "Don’t throw pearls before swine or else they’ll trample them" and "Don’t give what is special to dogs or else they may turn around and bite ...

By Nate Webster, LMHC                Statistics tell us that Millennials are waiting much longer to get married. In 1963 the average age of a women for her first marriage was 21 and for men it was 23. Today it is 27 for women and 29 for men. Why are Millennials waiting so much longer to tie the knot?   Why Do They Wait So Long To Commit? Living Together: The first possibility is that cohabitation has sky rocketed since the 1960’s. Cohabitation is a massive component to marriage. Traditionally cohabitation was the major indication and benefit of those who were married compared to those who weren’t. It was a major reason people got married, so they could build a life together and have a home, because traditionally you weren’t living together before marriage. But since the 1970’s cohabitation has increased roughly 33%, to where today 66% of Millennials who get married are living together befo...

 By Nate Webster, LMHC             Understanding the difference between love and infatuation is important. The two get confused on a regular basis, but have very different definitions. There are three differences between love and infatuation. Love is about mutually giving, infatuation is about individualistically receiving             Infatuation is about getting what you want out of the relationship and usually results in turning the other person into an object. A kind of romantic, emotional vending machine, where you want them to give you what you want. You want them to say what you want to hear. You want them to feel the way you want them to feel about you.   Infatuation generally turns someone into a product, something to be used to get what the person desires. People who are infatuated often have a fantasy in their head and they make the other...