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  15 Factors that Fuel Unfaithfulness written by Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Leadership Coach There are 15 key factors that can cause someone to ignore everything they believe in to break all the rules of a stable relationship. Here are the factors that drive people to cheat. As you read them, think of the people you have watched in a continual and desperate attempt to find somebody new to love, who only ended up creating massive stress and chaos for everyone else involved. 1. Selfishness:  The clear #1 factor that fuels secret relationships is a commitment to please oneself over any commitment to their partner. Selfishness is a subtle slave master because it seems so natural to do what feels good inside, without consideration for how it will affect others. Once a person buys into the notion that their happiness is more important than that of their marriage partner, or children, parents, co-workers, boss, or shareholders, they begin a seductive slide into the da...

58 Warning Signs of Cheating Partners written by: Dwight Bain, LMHC, NCC, & Certified Leadership Coach These are the most common signs of a partner who has detached from you because they are attached to someone else. Check off any of these traits you have seen in your relationship over the last few months. Be honest, the future of your relationship together could depend on it. Spiritual Warning Signs: ____ You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of topics ____ Your spouse seems more secretive or deceptive ____ Abandoning faith or previously held values or morals ____ Not trustworthy or constant violations of trust ____ Secrecy or unusual activity that is very out of character for them ____ Your partner is disrespectful or rude to those who hold traditional values ____ Your partner abandons their religious belief and value system Behavioral Warning Signs: ____ Mate is working longer hours on the job and not coming home as much ____ Your spouse h...

(commentary on cheating pastors, king David, patriarchal church structures, grace & good care written by a survivor of this tragedy, Elizabeth McKeehan, IMH)     Here we go again… what gives… why betray those you love? Why do religious leaders cheat when they know their family and church will suffer the consequences for days and years to come. How can both grace and healing occur for everyone involved? Spouse betrayal is not a new phenomenon. I do not believe a clear or easy answer exists about why pastors, religious, and governing leaders cheat on their spouses. We could look at King David who loved God but was also filled with lust for Bathsheba, the wife of his friend Uriah. Bathsheba was married, yet he prioritized his craving for her and acted selfishly. In his ultimate power as king, he raped Bathsheba and then had her husband, his friend, killed when he found out she was pregnant. David sinned against God and he along with his substantially large family ...