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(commentary on cheating pastors, king David, patriarchal church structures, grace & good care written by a survivor of this tragedy, Elizabeth McKeehan, IMH)     Here we go again… what gives… why betray those you love? Why do religious leaders cheat when they know their family and church will suffer the consequences for days and years to come. How can both grace and healing occur for everyone involved? Spouse betrayal is not a new phenomenon. I do not believe a clear or easy answer exists about why pastors, religious, and governing leaders cheat on their spouses. We could look at King David who loved God but was also filled with lust for Bathsheba, the wife of his friend Uriah. Bathsheba was married, yet he prioritized his craving for her and acted selfishly. In his ultimate power as king, he raped Bathsheba and then had her husband, his friend, killed when he found out she was pregnant. David sinned against God and he along with his substantially large family had to li

 By: Brian Murray, LMHC, NCC Codependency is a type of behavior that is often used to describe someone who is trying to control the actions and behaviors of others. Often the person who is termed “codependent” is trying to love another but is going about it in a way that creates poor relationship connections. Codependents have an unhealthy reliance and emotional dependence on others, mostly in romantic relationships. This connection is usually based on the codependent’s need to try and fix, rescue and control their partner. The term codependent was originally termed in addiction treatment as the person who is in relationship with the addicted person. They would often be seen as addiction supply either relationally, financially or some other form of enabling behavior such as a place to live. The codependent feels that they can fix the addict, control outcomes or rescue the addicted from themselves. When this happens then the addict will see how wonderful they are and that is whe

 By: Brian Murray, LMHC, NCC Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental disorder characterized by difficulty with interpersonal relationships. Common symptoms include conflict, addictions, self-harm, impulsive and reckless behavior, and they frequently feel suicidal. Most individuals experience a rapid shift in mood ranging from good to bad to angry to fear of abandonment and rejections from others. The feelings experienced in BPD are usually caused by a tendency to see things in terms of black and white thinking while contributing to conflicting views of the self-known as dichotomous thinking. They are highly sensitive people and dependent on how others view and treat them in their relationships. People with BPD struggle to manage their emotions and lose functionality when feeling upset, sometimes with explosive anger. People with BPD can be seemingly high functioning and educated in the workplace and social settings. However, it is their personal life where they struggl