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How Do Deceptive People Get Away with It?

By: Christine Hammond, LMHC, NCC David was the charismatic leader of a large not-for-profit organization which gave aid and care for the homeless. Over the past ten years, his organization, under his energetic leadership, grew substantially as donations increased, new shelters were formed, and thousands of people were assisted. On the surface, things seemed to above board and working well. But it wasn’t. Discretionary funds kept disappearing and despite the increase in donations and the efficiency of management, the organizations’ numbers were in the red. David called a board meeting and openly admitted to having a personal spending problem and laughingly brushed off the organization’s issues as people following his lead. When another board member during the meeting confronted David about another indiscretion of sexual harassment of a volunteer. David minimized it, teased the board member for being overly sensitive, and openly admitted his weakness for overspending an

23 Ways You Could be Cyberstalked

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By: Christine Hammond, LMHC, NCC During his divorce, Mark became aware of strange things happening to him on his social media and personally. Some of his friends began posting things that seemed to be about him without directly naming him. His soon-to-be-ex kept posting meme’s about crazy husbands. Then she began randomly appearing where he was, introducing herself to whomever he was with, and sending him excessive text messages through the day. Confused and frustrated, Mark researched cyberharassment and found all sorts of information about cybertrolling, cyberbullying, and cyberstalking. Here is what he learned. What is cybertrolling? This is generally thought of as harmless overviewing of someone’s social media information, photos, or posts. It is a one-time occurrence and is not meant to harm the victim. For instance, before hiring a swim instructor, the perpetrator might review the victim’s social media posts or pictures. It is sometimes followed with feelin

Narcissistic Abuse: Cyberbullying and Cyberstalking

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By: Christine Hammond, LMHC, NCC Shirley thought that the abuse from her narcissistic husband would be over after the divorce was finalized. But it wasn’t. Instead, he found a new way to harass, embarrass, and torment her. He began to cyberbully and cyberstalk. She noticed at first that he was liking or using the angry face her Facebook posts. When she didn’t respond, he made a sarcastic comment. Even after she would delete his comments, he would make another one even worse than the one before. So, she blocked him. But then he started following her friends and family commenting on their posts making derogatory comments about Shirley. The worst of which was, “She doesn’t deserve to be happy or alive.” When her friends blocked him, he began creating fake profiles to friend her friends. Then he would post pictures, memes, and comments that were demeaning about Shirley. He made up stories about her and told secrets from her past posting it on her friend’s wall. He just