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Conventional and Unconventional Insight about Monogamous Relationships

THE CONVENTIONAL INSIGHT our society shares about marriage.1)THE PURPOSE OF MARRIAGEThe common wisdom about the purpose of marriage today is that it is to take one’s place in society and fulfill the American Dream which is to raise children and develop a style of life that will bring a particular kind of fulfillment.Marriage is not considered necessary since today one can raise children and develop a life-style while single, but this is not quite the real thing.2)WHY WE CHOOSE A PARTNERWe commonly believe that we are aware of the basic reasons for choosing a partner.One chooses a partner whom one loves and who shares one’s own values, interests and goals.By each one sharing, honestly and openly, the partners develop intimacy with each other.It is when you find the right person that sharing and intimacy becomes possible.3)THE ADEQUACY OF LOVEWe do recognize that to have a successful marriage we must love and cherish each other as we vow to do at the wedding.Being in love, the commitmen…

Formula to Create Positive Change in the New Year

Formula to create positive change in the new year
By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Certified Life Coach

Change is the only constant element in life, so we either have to get used to it and grow, or get run over by it and gripe. Since most of us are creatures of habit and have difficulty accepting change, here are a few tips to help you stay “W.E.L.L.” as you take bold steps to make this year your very best year. My friend John Maxwell says that "we tend to overestimate what we can do in a week and underestimate what we can do in a year." So as you begin to map out how to create positive changes in your life this year, plan on reviewing this formula weekly to track your success. Also, remember that my main goal is to make life work better for you, so keep in touch as you have time so we can rejoice together in the positive steps you have taken to live a better life.

W- Wellness
You need sleep, a healthy diet, exercise and quiet time in peaceful meditation t…

What is “Life Management” and how can it save you time by providing problem solving skills?

Find out if this weekly training seminar is for you!
Do you want to learn how to better manage your emotions and relationships?
Are you looking for creative ways to deal with the stress in your life from a clear biblical perspective?
Do you learn faster in a high-content seminar based environment instead of a small group?
Have you found a safe place for regular personal and spiritual development?
Would a weekly Life Management Seminar add value to your busy lifestyle?

If your answer to any of these questions is "yes" then here's some good news! Dwight Bain, (author, counselor and life coach) teaches an innovative seminar every weekend designed to be a creative place to learn how to manage daily life pressures. This life-management seminar will also feature other local authors who are experts in their career field along with practical insights from Bain’s 25 years helping people find creative answers to solve complex situations. Each week we will take an in-depth look at rea…

7 Strategies to Survive the Holidays

By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified CounselorHave you ever wondered why traditional holidays are so stressful?Instead of being called the ‘most wonderful time of the year,’ it seems that we should rename it to be more accurately called the ‘most difficult time of the year’. I believe you can break the pattern of stressful holidays by realistically changing your perspective to directly deal with predictable daily pressures and then by using strategic coping skills to steer around or even better steer away from the bigger problems that tend to ‘pop up’ this time of year. Face it. There are as many factors to cause our stress levels to build to an explosive level as there are people on the planet. Everyone has complexities and challenges different from others, yet there are some universal pressures everyone has to address no matter their age, gender or marital status. Stress tends to go up as we age because there are more factors to consider, more people to deal with and more responsibi…

Teen Rebellion or Conduct Disorder? A Counseling Special Report from Dwight Bain

Likely everybody has heard about or knows a teenager or young adult who has experienced trouble with the law or who has been expelled from school or perhaps even threatened someone at school, sometimes with a weapon.  People know these teens have problems, but they may not know these behaviors can be symptoms of a very real psychiatric illness affecting approximately 9 percent of all boys and 2 percent of all girls under the age of 18 in the United States.Rebellion-  is open opposition to authority or tradition. Usually the word rebellion implies disobedience when there should be obedience. The ancient French word for rebel is 'rebelle,' which means "to wage war again." ~ Webster's Dictionary These symptoms describe what is commonly called a "conduct disorder," or "Oppositional Defiant Disorder," which is a behavioral problem characterized by uncontrolled anger, rebellion, resistance to discipline and a pattern of violating the rights of othe…