Showing posts from March, 2005

What's on Your Kid's Mind Today?

by Jessica Gilstrap, LMHC
Recently I was asked to speak at one of our local high schools here in Orlando and spent time with a group of 9th – 12th graders (14-17). The topic of our discussion was centered on family systems and family dynamics. During our time together, they posed many interesting questions relating to families and family relationships. I wanted to take some time and share some of these questions with you and discuss what was on the minds of these particular adolescents that day.

1. Should parents and kids be real close friends/best friends?
Surprisingly, the answer is No. Parents are not called to be their child’s best friend; they are to be their parents. I often talk with parents who think that it is better to just be their child’s friend or pal; this is just not the case. Children yearn for rules and boundaries; they want to know what they can and cannot do. It brings children to a level of security when they know that they are operating within a framework of expectat…

Iceberg Personality Principle

by Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Life Coach 90% of an iceberg is under the water, leaving only a tiny amount exposed above the surface. Like an iceberg, a large portion of our personality is hidden from view. Most of who we really are is typically covered up and tightly protected from ever being seen by others. The Bible teaches this principle as “Man looks on the outside appearance, but God looks on the heart.” While it is normal to want to look good in front of others, it is not always healthy, because there are many deeper issues in life that need consideration if we are to grow strong in our own maturity and personal character development.

Hidden issues and character flaws under the surface that lead to a habitual pattern of conflict and chaos cause many relationships to stay in a constant state of turmoil. There is a reason for every human behavior. Take into consideration your daily life choices and those of the people around you, a better understanding of why …